May 30, 2014
When people ask me
If my girlfriend and I live together,
I tell them no.
Because they don’t know my definition of “live.”
They think it means that we
Reside in the same physical structure
At the same time.
That we always grocery shop together
And make rent payments
And do our laundry in the same washing machine.
There is an old Arabic proverb
That says, “to know someone,
You must travel with them.”
So if these people mean that we have
Seen each other
Lost in another country,
Weary and tired somewhere in between
Boston and New Orleans
With the same dusty pair of sneakers on,
And a number of times I probably
Took my frustration out on her.
Rolled my eyes
At her in Providence
And she rolled away from me
In the pull out sofa bed
But she kissed me hard
On the train platform in Chicago,
Wrapped her arms round me
In San Francisco
And looked painfully into my eyes
When the bus driver called everyone
And it was safer to just wait until we got
To hold hands again.
When it was pouring rain in Minneapolis
And I made her laugh when I said
This place always has too much weather.
She kept me warm in Vancouver
When we stayed in the cramped apartment
Under the stairs
And she complained sometimes
About me complaining.
She didn’t like how creepy Santa Cruz
Was in its off season
And she got frustrated when
I checked us in on facebook
Instead of checking when the Greyhound
Was leaving the station.
When we watched an Oklahoma sunset over
And danced down Bourbon Street together,
Made love in more than a few odd places,
Learned to two step in Denver,
Finally met my grandfather
In his porcelain urn casket in New Jersey
Then cried about it
At a Taco Bell in New York City,
Spent the last of everything we saved
On a blackjack table in Vegas
And didn’t regret a thing.
The real adventure for us is going to be
throwing our roots down someplace.
signing a lease,
And loading our lives up into the same space
At the same time.
We have never lived together
In a conventional sense of the term.
But we have lived,
And we have done it together
And neither of us
Are very conventional anyways.